I’m not a parent but I have the same question.

The next step in this conversation feels like, “how can you be a good parent in light of the fact that you’re tragically human — because being a marble slab of emotional perfection will never be a pre-req to having kids?”

The author is ripping the veil off an important issue: the burden of dangerous emotional codependence some mothers place on their children. But in an era of rampant “parental perfection” blogs and articles, this deepens the fear and terror that none of us will ever be good enough parents. There is enough of this fear already. The sentiment in this article might benefit from the balance offered by an exploration of how many parents struggle with being perfect for their kids — and often fail. And how that failure feels.